I will tell you this...even if you think you don’t need one, understand that raising children takes a village, but pregnancy and birth take a doula.
Frequently Asked Questions
1What is a Doula?
A doula According to DONA International, a doula is a professional who is trained in childbirth and provides continuous support to a mother before, during, and just after birth. Doula comes from a Greek word that means “a woman who serves” or “handmaiden.”
2How Do I Choose a Doula?
Doula’s take interviews and are ready for any and all conversation! Want someone who will make sure your husband doesn’t pass out? Done. Want someone who makes sure no one sees anything weird coming out of your body? Done. Want to focus on Hypnobirthing and have a doula that only focuses on your music, your pressure points and positioning? Bring it up and make sure they are comfortable with that! Doula’s are honest and are an amazing support system to each other as well, if one is not a great fit they will help you find one that is!
3How is a doula different from my partner, mother or a nurse?
The biggest thing that a doula is offering you is non-stop, by your side, support. They will not leave unless you ask them to. They are there for you, your baby and your husband and absolutely no one else. They don’t have other patients to attend to or past baggage with you. They also are not bringing anything extra in to the room. I remember a moment when I truly though I only wanted my mom by my side. The minute she arrived at my first birth, I asked her to leave immediately. I have no idea why, but as nurturing and amazing as she is with me, she is also a nurse and there was something about having the extra knowledge of the medical side and extra knowledge of me that made me feel an extra weight to having her there. Having a third party there that had absolutely no past with me, only unconditional, non stop attention to my current needs, reading me on the spot with pure instinct was everything to me.
4 Do I Need a Doula?
Well, my personal opinion is everyone needs a doula! But, these questions may help you make your decision. Would your partner appreciate the additional support if you end up having a very long labor? Can you see a benefit to someone with knowledge of optimal positioning during your birth? Do you see a benefit in someone with additional knowledge in a time of the baby being stalled in the birth canal, discussions of intervention (vacuum, episiotomy, forceps, c-section)? Would you like someone to offer suggestions and help you through natural methods of pain relief? Do you like to be massaged? Does touch, pressure and aromatherapy help you when you are stressed or in pain? Would you like to have someone to call 24 hours a day during your pregnancy to answer any and all of your questions?
5What is the Difference Between a Doula and a Midwife?
No, not at all. This is a common misconception, but we have no ‘medical degree’. My blog on this topic will quickly explain to you the main differences and what we do.
6What Areas Do You Cover?
I work in a 90 mile radius to Brick, NJ. This includes home births, Monmouth Medical, Jersey Shore University Medical Hospital, Community Medical Center, Virtua Voorhees Hospital, UPenn, Princeton Plainsboro, Jefferson Hospital, Lankenau Hospital, Morristown Medical Center, Raritan, Riverview Medical Center and any and all others in between.
7What Types of Families and Births Do You Work With?
Our doulas have training and experience in working with: Water Birth/Labor Hypno-birthing Vegan Pregnancy Twins/Multiples Placenta Encapsulation Cesarean Births High Risk Inductions VBAC/TOLAC Epidural and Pain Relief Support Peanut Ball Support LGBQT Families Adoption Surrogate